Seduction Profile: The Rake

The Rake Tamed

Robert Greene originated the rake’s name from raking the coals of hell. He’s the hardest to tame, loves the chase, and adores the opposite sex. His intense desire has a distracting power on woman.

Before you read about the rake, make sure you read the introduction to all the seduction profiles or take the quiz (released September, 2017).

He’s the hardest of all to tame and become a dedicated partner, but it’s achievable with a few cat and mouse games, because the rake loves the thrill of the chase.

He adores the opposite sex, and his intense desire has a distracting power on woman. He’s devoted to woman, and they love him. At first he will do anything and shower you with attention to try and win you over.

A rake values his reputation. Virtuous woman can fall deeply in love with the rake. Woman want to reform him. He offers pure pleasure, a sense of risk, and something forbidden and thrilling. With an extreme personality, he’s witty, sarcastic, and cares nothing about what anyone thinks. There’s also something dangerous and taboo about him.

He loves resistance and obstacles…

He enjoys woman who resist. In fact, he loves obstacles. He pushes the limits and goes further than most men. Thus making rakes the most likely seduction type to peruse woman in relationships or highly desired by other men. He loves the thrill of proving himself over other men and winning the prize. You may not have realized this at the beginning, but ask yourself: what was your obstacle, when you first met him? Were you with someone else? Were you highly desirable? Did he rescue you from a boring or constraining life?

For a while he lives for you. At one time, he made you feel like you had all his attention. However, once he wins the prize, he gives less attention and appears to lose some interest. On the contrary, if he thinks there’s no way of winning you over, he will drop you stone cold. The key remains keeping his interest and thrill of the chase alive. He must think he can win you over, while you balance the right amount of giving in and resisting.

He adores the opposite sex…

After being with a rake for an amount of time, you likely struggle with him giving other woman attention. If you haven’t noticed yet, then it’s likely a new or no-strings-attached relationship. You will notice eventually. It’s likely not outward cheating assuming things haven’t went bad, but he crosses boundaries and gives other woman attention. He adores the opposite sex, so it’s natural for him. This makes it hard to put your finger on or know how to approach the subject with him, because technically you have nothing tangible. At least, that’s how most woman would feel. It could be in person or on social media, where he gives attention.

Converting him into a dedicated partner…

Rakes can be converted to dedicated partners, but first you must position yourself as an obstacle. Then he will chase, fall in love, and be willing to settle down with you alone. You must position yourself as the most desirable prize for him to win, as provided in the tasks below. Once he realizes your value, you can set appropriate boundaries with him and other woman, also examined below.

One of my favorite client success stories was a Saskatoon woman age twenty eight who was dating a rake for about a year at the time. They had broken up and gotten back together a couple times. One weekend, following their last break up, I coached her on what to say next following every text he sent. They got back together and today live together. They’re discussing an engagement and their first baby. Between then and now, we worked hard teaching her to set boundaries, reduce inappropriate communication with woman, reform her confidence, love herself, and gain respect from her boyfriend. They had fights and struggles, as all relationships do, but today I’m happy to report, I have a happy, confident client meeting her relationship goals.

Firstly, remember it starts with you. With the client mentioned above, we worked together to find her confident self, set her values, and realize her self worth. Not to mention learning to keep calm and communicate calmly. You need to respect and love yourself. It sounds cliche, but it’s the foundation of having a great relationship. Dating a rake can sometimes lower your self esteem, make you obsess, and send your emotions on a roller coaster. That being said, we can’t put the blame fully on him, because you should recognize you allowed it happen. However, I do empathize with you, as rake’s can be the hardest of any seduction profile to settle down with in a dedicated partnership.

Full frontal disclosure…

I use defense strategies and seduction profiling, as part of my relationship coaching. They will help you keep his attention and assist in creating a dedicated partnership with your rake. Most individuals will find the below defense strategies difficult to execute, but generally they improve most scenarios. However, all relationships have unique components. In addition to seduction profiling, defense strategies, I use my own experience, knowledge, intuition, and unique tasks assigned to individuals and/or their relationship, as part of my intuitive relationship coaching packages to match client needs. I love helping woman meet relationship goals and become the best versions of themselves. Please feel free to contact me for assistance in executing properly for your unique situation whether you’re in a relationship, seeing someone, or currently single. As long as you have a goal of one day having a dedicated partner, you can work with me.

Also, most of these strategies refer to building relationships to meet the goal of a dedicated partnership. If you’re already married or together for an extensive amount of time, similar strategies can be used to renew and excite your situation, so please reach out to me for more information.

Finally, if you have any comments, questions, concerns, or a different situation you’d like to discuss, please give me a shout via email or Facebook.

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Defense Strategies (dating <8 months)

Task 1: Remove competitive obstacles…

The rake delights in obstacles. Therefore, regarding other woman, it’s best to remove the obstacle. Get other woman on your side. Be friendly. Pursue any woman that gets his attention and get them on your side. Approach them, message them, and add them on social media. Initiate conversations with compliments. They will be hesitant to accept any sort of attention from your boyfriend, if they respect and like you.

Task 2: Create more resistance…

The rake delights in resistance, since it’s an obstacle. Think about creating more resistance in your relationship. Think of healthy resistance first. Innocent little things to make him chase you. If you haven’t dated long, resist getting too serious too fast. Resist showing or admitting your true feelings for him early in the relationship. Make it more like a friends with benefits for the first couple months. If you must display your feelings, display it physically in the bedroom. Finally, you can add resistance by having a free and wild spirit. Be spontaneous and unpredictable like you’re a challenge to make settle down.

Task 3: Increase pleasure and be more spontaneous…

According to his profile, the rake enjoys pleasure, spontaneity, lack of restraint, no strings attached, danger, and taboo stuff. He disdains convention. Think of small ways to introduce pleasure, spontaneity, danger, and taboo things into your life. This will include sexual things. Like places you can display public nudity and things in the bedroom. Think of ways where you can bring a lack of restraint to let go around him. Be free and wild like you don’t care about consequences or norms. Have fun and seek only pleasure. Make a list.

Defense Strategies (dating >8 months)

Task 1: Remove competitive obstacles…

The rake delights in obstacles. Therefore, regarding other woman, it’s best for you to remove the obstacle. Get the women on your side. Be friendly. Pursue any woman that gets his attention and get them on your side. Approach them, message them, and add them on social media. Initiate conversations with compliments. They will be hesitant to accept any sort of attention from your boyfriend, if they respect and like you.

Task 2: Create more resistance…

The rake delights in resistance, since resistance is a form of an obstacle. Think about how you can create more resistance in your relationship. Think of healthy resistance first. Innocent little things to make him chase you. You can add resistance by having a free and wild spirit. Be spontaneous and unpredictable.

Task 3: Increase pleasure and be more spontaneous…

According to his profile, the rake enjoys pleasure, spontaneity, lack of restraint, no strings attached, danger, taboo stuff. He disdains convention. Think of small ways to introduce pleasure, spontaneity, danger, and taboo things into your life. This will include sexual things. Like places you can display public nudity and things in the bedroom. Think of ways where you can bring a lack of restraint to let go around him. Be free and wild like you don’t care about consequences or norms. Have fun and seek only pleasure. Make a list.

Task 4: Remove his player reputation…

The rake values his reputation. He embraces his bad name, as a player. It draws woman to him. They hope to be the one who finally makes him dedicate himself to one woman. Make him appear dedicated to you in order to remove his player reputation. Post pictures of you together on social media. Be touchy and giggly with him in social settings. Anything that will display commitment. Be careful don’t go over the top with any of this, because he may feel smothered. He dislikes commitment, so be smart about frequency and how you go about this.

Task 5: Call him out on giving attention to other woman…

As your relationship progresses and time passes, you need to call him out on boundary crossings and attention to other woman. Boundaries represent reasonably fair requests for both individuals in the relationship. It’s about fairness and respect not control, and boundaries shall not be unreasonable. You need to assert yourself fairly, and express to him your concerns represent fairness and respect.

Usually, I don’t ask woman dating other profiles to call their boyfriends out regarding attention to other woman to this extent, but the rake needs to be tamed and know you’re on to him. Be careful with this task, as you don’t want to come across as jealous or controlling. Catch it right away in the early stages of communication or attention to another woman. Be honest and tactful. Don’t be mean and don’t take low blows. Know what you deserve and what’s respectful from dedicated partners.

Because the rake adores woman, you have to clarify boundaries. He will detest, deny, or become defensive, when you call him out on his rakishness. You must remain calm with a clear emotionally intelligent defense. Make it clear you aren’t stopping him from being friends with woman, but you need to meet woman he becomes friends with or talks to regularly.

Rakes usually don’t outwardly chase woman in front of you. They do it underground, when you aren’t around or on social media. While I don’t usually advise woman dating other profiles to esquire about whom their boyfriend may be communicating with on their phone and social media, you almost have to in order to tame the rake. You must be careful how you go about this, because we all know girlfriends who check phones and question their boyfriend about who they’re talking to get labelled as controlling or crazy. For the record, those woman accused didn’t know how to go about it correctly and calculated, and the rest of the woman accusing them of being controlling or crazy haven’t had to date a rake for an extended amount of time. Be a detective, and be careful how you approach and say things. You need a good reason, why you have reservations.

Again, most individuals find this task especially difficult to execute properly. I was reluctant to write this task, because often it goes wrong with woman going too far or obsessing. However, I wanted to communicate this task, so you at least have the information. Please feel free to contact me for guidance on your personal situation.

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